Have you ever known the real you? Really known her, felt comfortable with her, liked her?
Think back to a time when you felt most at home in yourself. When things felt easier, when you felt most alive and most authentically you. For a lot of women, that feeling can seem very far away — buried under decades of adapting, accommodating, doing what was expected and slowly losing the thread back to themselves.
But here is what I know. That woman is still in there. She hasn’t gone anywhere.
If you find it hard right now to accept who you are — or who you’ve become — then you have permission to choose differently. Tweak and alter and experiment until you find the person you truly want to be. Small changes return big results. Don’t wait for a dramatic transformation. Start with one small thing today.
Write down the time in your life when you felt most content. What were you doing? Who were you with? How did that feel in your body? Write it in as much detail as you can remember. This is journalling as archaeology — digging gently through the layers to find what’s real and true and yours.
Handwriting this process is important. Not typing, not talking, not thinking — writing. Your handwriting carries a physical connection to your thoughts and feelings that no keyboard can replicate. When you write about yourself with honesty and kindness, you begin to reconnect with yourself. And that reconnection is the foundation of everything — your confidence, your purpose, your wellbeing.
Find that feeling again. Work towards it. This can be fun, honestly. She is worth finding.